Dealing With Anger
Joe M posted in well-being on March 25th, 2008
We all have different ways of venting and dealing with anger.
Somewhere, somehow, someone is going to make you mad.
I got to thinking about it.
How do I deal with anger?
Step back from the situation. Walk away, get a coke, chew some gum, open a different conversation with someone.
Hold your breath and count to ten. If you say something, it may be the wrong thing. If you type something, it may be the wrong thing. There is a physiological change that takes place when you hold your breath. Add to it the count, and you help physiologically put your body and emotions into a pace.
Pray for the situation or person. This one comes from my Mom and Dad, and being raised in a Christian home. Pray for the welfare, pray for an open heart, pray for understanding. This one has always worked very well for me. I need to do it more.
Come back and assess the situation later. This works for anger, puzzles or anything that involves heavy duty thought. This will give your subconscious the opportunity to work on the issue. If it involves another person, many times their views or demands will change after having a chance to think a little more.
Lifehack.org has a simple article on squelching your anger.
We all know someone who is manipulative or loves to ‘push our buttons.’ They love to shock or disappoint people, for the thrill of the reaction.
Don’t give them one.
Patience and ignorance can pay off in this situation, giving way to their frustrations and subsequent resolve.
If it appears that the ‘buttons won’t push,’ they usually cease to do whatever it is they are doing.
I know people that love to boast of being antagonistic and argumentative.
I watched one person I know let her boss trick her into walking out on her job, because she thought she was ‘being strong,’ and giving her boss a ‘piece of her mind.’ To this day, I don’t think she understands that is exactly what her boss wanted her to do.
Think about how anger can affect your physical well-being. I don’t do it often, but I blew my top one day at someone. After it was over, and I calmed down, I was fatigued, nervous and felt horrible the rest of the day.
How do you deal with anger? What is the best way to deal with a difficult person?